protip:

Here's how it works, dear friends. You only get out of me what you put in (and that isn't a pervy joke, for the record). So if you ignore me? I ignore you. If you shower me with attention? I do the same back. If you are too scared to be yourself, I tend to not be as open. If you retreat to people who make it so you don't have to think? I stop bothering you with problems that need solving.

Don't sit there and write about how you've been replaced when you replaced me first.